Trust is a two-way street

The deep bond UFM100.3 DJ Li Mei shares with her dog, Baby, is very different from what she enjoys with friends and family.

UFM100.3 DJ Yip Li Mei had just boarded a cruise ship when she received a heart-stopping phone call.

“Baby has gone missing,” said the frantic voice on the other end of the line.

It turned out that Yip’s mongrel-beagle had slipped his collar and run away from the boarding kennel where she had left him hours earlier.

“Even if he is hit by a car, please find him,” she begged, feeling helpless.

It was already evening, and there would be heavy traffic in the vicinity. Yip feared the worst.

But all she could do was wait. And trust that he would be found.

A miracle of faith

An hour later, there was still no news from the boarding kennel.

At her wit’s end, Yip called her mother to enlist her help in the search.

To her surprise, her puzzled mother replied, “Huh? Baby is sleeping in the room!”

“I couldn’t believe it, and asked her to double-check that it was really him. It was — Baby had found his way home!” Yip recalls.

“For a 10-month-old pup to walk home from the kennel, it was just astounding.”

That incident taught her that trust is a two-way street. And she had to have as much faith in Baby as he had in her.

She explains: “I felt a sense of guilt; why didn’t I trust my dog? He is so intelligent and his strong sense of wanting to be with his loved ones(us) led him right back home.”

She never sent him away again, and Baby has stayed at home with her helper whenever Yip has been away.

Unbreakable bond

For Yip, trust is synonymous with Baby.

“Dogs are indeed man’s best friends, and never once have they let me down. I believe that a dog will do whatever it can do for its owner,” she says.

But how different is it from the trust between people?

“When a dog trusts you, it shows. When they believe in you, in your love for them, they will be loyal for a lifetime.

“For example, it trusts you to cut its nails, bathe it, feed it and is willing to eat from your hand.

“Trust is what a dog does with no second thoughts once it has made up his mind to do so.”

Bosom buddies

Baby has been a part of Yip’s life since 2013 when she found him at a construction site and decided to adopt him.

She explains: “We have a strong connection, a tacit understanding. When I take him to outdoor places such as Tanjong Beach, I don’t need to keep him leashed as I know he will always stay by my side.

“To me, Baby is my best friend, and my kin. When I am down, I will pour my heart out to him and my unhappiness will just dissipate. Like a confidante, he will just sit and listen to me — plus there is no way he can divulge my secrets.”

Yip adds that when she is upset, Baby senses her emotion and will stay close to her, never leaving her side, as if reassuring her.

On walks, Baby will always turn around to make sure Yip is within sight.

“I love him a lot, and he loves me too. Baby has an important place in our family; we are practically inseparable and wherever we go, we will take him along.”

In fact, Yip reveals that her happiest moment at the end of a long, tiring day is returning home to Baby.

“He will lay down beside me and we will just hang out. To me, that is one of the biggest pleasures in life.”

信任是相互的

译:黄丽容

有一回,UFM100.3 DJ丽梅刚上游轮就接到一通惊心动魄的电话。

“Baby不见了!”电话另一端的人气急败坏地说。

原来是丽梅的混种猎兔犬挣脱項圈,逃离了数小时前它被送去寄养的宠物店。

“就算他被车撞了,也拜托一定要找到他。”她无助地恳求道。

当时已是傍晚,宠物店所在的一带车很多,丽梅恐怕Baby已经凶多吉少。

但她能做的就是等候。她深信一定会找到Baby。

信任的奇迹

一个小时后,宠物店依然没有消息。

茫无头绪之际,丽梅给母亲打电话,让她也帮忙找Baby。

不料母亲却告诉她,Baby正在房里睡觉。

“我无法相信,叫她看清楚真的是它吗?——Baby竟然会自己回家!”丽梅忆述。

“一只十个月大的小狗从宠物店走路回家,简直匪夷所思。”

这件事让丽梅学到信任是相互的。她应该像Baby相信她那样相信Baby。

她解释:“我觉得愧疚,为什么我不相信它?它那么聪明,它想和疼它的人(我们)在一起的强烈意识把它带回家。”

丽梅从此不再送Baby去寄养了。每当出远门,她都会留它在家给女佣照料。

亲密无间

对丽梅而言,Baby等同于信任。

“狗是人类最好的朋友,它们从没令我失望。我相信狗为了主人会尽其所能。”她说。

它和人与人之间的信任有何不同?

“狗的信任是会表现出来的。它相信你,相信你是疼它的,会一辈子忠于你。”

“它放心让你给它剪趾甲、洗澡、喂它,愿意吃你拿给它的食物。”

“狗一旦认定你,就一心一意,这就是信任。”

毛孩知己

丽梅是2013年在一个建筑工地发现Baby并决定收养它。从那时起,Baby就成为她生命的一部分。

她说:“我们很亲,很有默契。我带它出去,譬如去丹戎海滩,我不用给它系狗带,因为我知道它会紧跟着我。”

“Baby是我的死党、至亲。情绪低落的时候,我会向它倾诉,烦恼就会消散。它就像个知己,坐着听我讲话,而且绝不会泄露秘密。”

丽梅说,她心情不好的时候,Baby也能感受到,会特别黏她,像是要令她宽心。

散步时,Baby会不断转身,确保丽梅在视线范围内。

“我很疼它,它也很疼我。Baby在我们家举足轻重,我们几乎是形影不离,去哪儿都带着它。”

丽梅透露,一天辛劳之后,回到家看到Baby是她最快乐的时刻。

“它会依偎在我身边,我会跟它玩耍。对我而言,那是生活中的一大乐趣。”